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How to write a resume when ADHD makes you hate yourself?
When ADHD makes you hate yourself, writing a resume can feel like an insurmountable task, but it's essential to focus on your strengths and accomplishments rather than your perceived shortcomings. We're under-built for systems that assume daily showups, so it's crucial to work with our ADHD brains, not against them.
We need to redefine what a resume means to us
A resume is essentially a document that highlights our skills, experience, and education, but for many of us with ADHD, it can feel like a reflection of our self-worth. For instance, I know someone who struggled to list their achievements because they felt like they weren't good enough, but once they started focusing on the specific tasks they'd accomplished, they were able to create a strong resume. By shifting our perspective, we can start to see our resume as a tool, rather than a source of anxiety.
Our brains work differently, and that's okay
ADHD brains are wired to respond to interest and novelty, so it's essential to find ways to make the resume-writing process engaging. A mind map works well here — start by writing down all your job titles, then branch out to specific accomplishments and skills, and finally narrow it down to the most relevant information. The visual structure keeps focus locked in and prevents the overwhelm of staring at a blank document.
Another crucial aspect: acknowledging that ADHD brains are prone to self-criticism, and developing a growth mindset. Recognizing that the resume is a work in progress gives you permission to make mistakes and learn from them. That mindset shift sustains motivation and prevents getting stuck in negative self-talk.
It's time to take small steps towards a completed resume
Now that we've reframed the approach to resume writing, it's time to take action. Start with small, achievable goals — 10 minutes a day on the resume. As progress accumulates, gradually increase the time and effort. If you're struggling to get started, the ADHD Job Search Kit is built for it — a step-by-step guide for creating a strong resume and a job search strategy that works around an ADHD brain. See it here.
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